SURVIVING AS A COMMERCIAL SEX WORKER AFTER DIVORCE
L ooking at it from out side, one cannot tell what usually goes on inside, it is like washing a cup outside but leaving the inside dirty. Commonly known as Sabina joy, the club has been in the limelight because of its ‘dealings’ since independence.
Originally chances of finding a woman in a bar almost slimed to null but currently especially in this club, the number of young girls and middle aged women is three times that of men.
Upon your entrance, it is like a bell is rung to signify your presence, every single lady who is not yet booked cranes her neck and makes very suggestive facial expressions including gestures perhaps to capture your attention. Again as you enter your pockets to leash out some bank notes to order for a drink, the balance that the waitress is going to give back, they count all that with their eyes at very strategic angles. Any wrong move you make especially with your hand may make some think that you called for them.
As I sip a drink at a corner in the innermost room, I cannot fail to notice the smoking habit in all of them with cigarette going round in chain and before it is finished almost six ladies by headcount have smocked it. Within some few minutes one of them comes and sits next to me and takes sometime before she talks. Finally, she introduces herself as Elizabeth Njeri probably after realizing that am not paying any attention to her. We begin to chat and I later come to realize that they are usually very good at keeping people company. I decide to buy her a drink after which she becomes more open to talk about how she was introduced in to the business.
Elizabeth had been married for nine years and had two children a boy and a girl. During her marriage, she used to have a secret affair with a friend to her husband which eventually led to her husband divorcing her. After getting divorced, her husband took the children with him and has never seen them since the incident three years ago. Her husbands’ friend took her in for some weeks then introduced her to her current business. She was not learned so chances of her securing a job proved futile.
During the first stages of her new found ‘Job’ Elizabeth found it very hard to get used to it
“I would sob silently because of having sex for money and my sex partner would foolishly think that I was enjoying the sex or that he was good in bed”,
she say. Elizabeth adds that one cheap room houses up to even five sex partners at once who don’t know each other if the man refused to rent a more comfortable room and she felt quite uneasy undressing in the presence of strangers. The cheap brothels are very smelly, rarely cleaned and people can easily contract skin related diseases. “We usually charge ksh250 per ejaculation commonly referred to as a ‘shot’ in the club”, she says
Since her divorce, she has not had a single chance to see her children because her husband vowed never to allow her see the children not to mention her mother-in law who had threatened to bewitch her because she was against her sons marriage to her in the first place but she is happy that her children are having a better life that she cannot provide them with.
Despite the fact that she knows she is risking her life to sexually transmitted diseases, she is quick to defend herself that there is nothing she can do and strictly insists on using of protection during sexual intercose which doesn’t guarantee a hundred percent protection as there may be certain risks as condom bursting as well as the temptation from those sex partners who don’t want to use condoms but instead offer to pay more money to have sex with her without knowing their status.
For Elizabeth she is fed up with living this kind of life and wants to move on with her life but then how does she feed herself, pay her rent and clothe herself. These are some of the questions that keep ringing in her mind every time she thinks of quitting this business.
L ooking at it from out side, one cannot tell what usually goes on inside, it is like washing a cup outside but leaving the inside dirty. Commonly known as Sabina joy, the club has been in the limelight because of its ‘dealings’ since independence.
Originally chances of finding a woman in a bar almost slimed to null but currently especially in this club, the number of young girls and middle aged women is three times that of men.
Upon your entrance, it is like a bell is rung to signify your presence, every single lady who is not yet booked cranes her neck and makes very suggestive facial expressions including gestures perhaps to capture your attention. Again as you enter your pockets to leash out some bank notes to order for a drink, the balance that the waitress is going to give back, they count all that with their eyes at very strategic angles. Any wrong move you make especially with your hand may make some think that you called for them.
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Elizabeth had been married for nine years and had two children a boy and a girl. During her marriage, she used to have a secret affair with a friend to her husband which eventually led to her husband divorcing her. After getting divorced, her husband took the children with him and has never seen them since the incident three years ago. Her husbands’ friend took her in for some weeks then introduced her to her current business. She was not learned so chances of her securing a job proved futile.
During the first stages of her new found ‘Job’ Elizabeth found it very hard to get used to it
“I would sob silently because of having sex for money and my sex partner would foolishly think that I was enjoying the sex or that he was good in bed”,
she say. Elizabeth adds that one cheap room houses up to even five sex partners at once who don’t know each other if the man refused to rent a more comfortable room and she felt quite uneasy undressing in the presence of strangers. The cheap brothels are very smelly, rarely cleaned and people can easily contract skin related diseases. “We usually charge ksh250 per ejaculation commonly referred to as a ‘shot’ in the club”, she says
Since her divorce, she has not had a single chance to see her children because her husband vowed never to allow her see the children not to mention her mother-in law who had threatened to bewitch her because she was against her sons marriage to her in the first place but she is happy that her children are having a better life that she cannot provide them with.
Despite the fact that she knows she is risking her life to sexually transmitted diseases, she is quick to defend herself that there is nothing she can do and strictly insists on using of protection during sexual intercose which doesn’t guarantee a hundred percent protection as there may be certain risks as condom bursting as well as the temptation from those sex partners who don’t want to use condoms but instead offer to pay more money to have sex with her without knowing their status.
For Elizabeth she is fed up with living this kind of life and wants to move on with her life but then how does she feed herself, pay her rent and clothe herself. These are some of the questions that keep ringing in her mind every time she thinks of quitting this business.
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